You don’t HAVE to forgive people that have harmed you ever like that is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard in my entire fucking life.
If YOU feel like you need to forgive somebody because that’s what you need to heal and move on from whatever they did, then go ahead and do it. But don’t you ever sit here and tell people that they must automatically forgive folks so they can be the bigger person.
Fuck. That. Shit.
Has anyone ever been paid back in any real way for being “the bigger person”?
Usually when someone’s been told to forgive someone or to apologize to someone to be the better person. It’s because a fight escalated to the point where both sides are immovable and they just want it ended.
It’s a coercion to just swallow their pride and end it because they can’t be bothered arguing about it any more. They just want it to go away and they resign themselves to forgive or apologize to do that, but it never goes away does it? The person who gets forgiven who gets the apology is generally vindicated at that point and continues to believe or do whatever they believed in the first place.
In my experience you can never change anyone’s opinion on anything unless they’re already in the mindset to change, or something triggers their desire to change.
by Ham Sung-choul
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